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pure_5aban
4th November 2009, 02:26 AM
So here it is, isnt wrong, how we always want our partner to change themselves for us? We always expect that...But have we thought once that how would they ever feel, if that come to be?
If you are with someone..you must love them for THEM! you must accept them as they are...the reason that they are with you is not because YOU want them to change themselves when they are with you BUT, because they can be themselves when they are with you!
We never understood that, all we ever looked for was what we want...
but you have to remember... its not about one.. its always about the 2 of you... So friends.. here's something you guys should have a look at!...



~~~Many of us make the mistake in relationships by thinking and trying to change the other person. We put all our efforts in trying to "fix" and change our loved ones. Instead of accepting them and loving them as is, we think they would be so much better if only they would act and do things our way.

We all want and need unconditional love. No one wants to feel that they can only be loved and accepted by someone if they change according to the wants and desires of that special someone.

If you think you can change another person you are really fooling yourself. The only person you can change is you! Once you change others will change. For every action there is a reaction. As you change and grow others will change and grow. Change is scary and some people wonít want you to change. The fear of the unknown keeps these people from wanting any change in their lives and so they wonít want to see you change. Donít allow other peopleís fears hold you back from making the positive changes you desire in your life.

If you want to change yourself realize it takes time. Donít be hard on yourself if you fall back to the old ways. We are all creatures of habit. It took a long time for you to be who you are today and you shouldnít expect to change overnight. Also remember that change is a choice. You can choose to start today and learn to develop and create the positive changes you want. There are excellent self help books that will provide you with the guidance and information you need to make the changes you desire. Try listening to self-help books on tape while you drive, do housework, exercise or perform any mundane task. Once you acquire the knowledge you need to make a change then act on that knowledge. Action is the key to change. The little steps you make do count when it comes to changing in a positive way.

Be persistent. Donít give up until you have made the changes you desire in your life a habit! Enjoy the journey and discover the joy and excitement of making positive changes.



Remember: A good loving relationship is one that allows each person to be himself or herself. Each person needs the freedom to grow and change at their own pace as they see fit. We can only change ourselves. Learn to love and accept yourself and you will be able to love and accept others without the need or desire to change them.~~~

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*Sunet*
4th November 2009, 11:12 AM
Each person needs the freedom to grow and change at their own pace as they see fit. We can only change ourselves..

yeah u r r8 pooo....
teacher.. tusi fer nice thread banaya..

Happyforever
4th November 2009, 11:14 AM
Vry nice di:)

pure_5aban
4th November 2009, 11:14 AM
Each person needs the freedom to grow and change at their own pace as they see fit. We can only change ourselves..

yeah u r r8 pooo....
teacher.. tusi fer nice thread banaya..

yes Gurdeep! bohot sahi keha tusii...
mere dil di gal keh dethi... :) yup... kisenu na majboor
karo badlan laye... na joor pao...kyuke...
ehe zaroori nahi aa.. insaan jida da wi aa..
ohnu owein accept karo.. :)

thnks soo muchh!!!!
glad you liked it ... :)

pure_5aban
4th November 2009, 11:24 AM
Vry nice di:)

thanks puttra :):):)...

~~!! MEHMI !!~~
4th November 2009, 11:33 AM
from where u bring these things hmmm nice yaar chuki chloo fattey

TejpalSIngh
4th November 2009, 11:40 AM
nice .. very nice....:rose:

pure_5aban
4th November 2009, 11:46 AM
from where u bring these things hmmm nice yaar chuki chloo fattey

Bas jii.. pucho naa ;)
its for all of you..
pasand aya.. bas ehi kaafi aa!! :)

pure_5aban
4th November 2009, 11:46 AM
nice .. very nice....:rose:

thanksss!

GURJEET4EVRY1
4th November 2009, 01:19 PM
very nice and totally truth...:):)
amazing.......:):)

Yuvraj786
4th November 2009, 05:31 PM
Its hard to change ourselves nd sum1 also. Bt you have no need to change dat person whom u loves. Love neva needs nd wants change.

pure_5aban
5th November 2009, 03:35 AM
Its hard to change ourselves nd sum1 also. Bt you have no need to change dat person whom u loves. Love neva needs nd wants change.

Yess, sahi keha tusi Yuvraj...
par kaye log eda karde ne... so ona laye aa ehe thread...
ke jehnu tusi dilon chaune aa..ohnanu odan accept karo..
kisenu wi badlan di lod ni.. bas ik duje nu samjan di lod aa!! :)

thnks!

pure_5aban
5th November 2009, 03:35 AM
very nice and totally truth...:):)
amazing.......:):)

thank youuu Gurjeet :)